It’s been six years since the Rev. Frank Schaefer presided over the wedding of his gay son, Tim, to another man. But though that time period has seen tremendous gains for LGBT equality in the U.S., the United Methodist pastor still stands to be defrocked in an unusually publicized church trial that began on Monday.
Dozens of supporters turned out with signs and rainbow stoles at a Methodist retreat in Spring City, Pa., about 60 miles east of Schaefer’s church in South Lebanon Township. The 51-year-old pastor will be tried there before a 13-member jury of his fellow clergy members.
Though the 2007 ceremony was legal in Massachusetts, where his son still lives, Schaefer now faces a wide range of penalties for breaking his pastoral vows, which resist national strides toward marriage equality. The United Methodist Church maintains a 40-year-old policy that simultaneously accepts gay and lesbian members, but considers the practice of homosexuality “incompatible with Christian teaching.” Soon after states began legalizing same-sex marriage, the church implemented a rule that barred Methodist pastors from officiating gay unions.
Schaefer says he knew he was putting his career in jeopardy when he was upfront with telling his superiors in the Eastern Pennsylvania Conference why he was marrying his son to another man. It wasn’t until April that a member of Schaefer’s congregation filed a complaint just shy of when the statute of limitations was due to expire.
“In one sense, it was an easy decision, because first of all, I love him so much,” said Schaefer last week to NBC affiliate, WGAL. “Imagine if I had told him no. It would have just negated all those affirmations.”
Tim Schaefer came out to his parents when he was 17 years old, after battling depression and suicidal thoughts because of his sexuality.
“Every night I prayed, begging God to make me normal. I pleaded with God to fix me,” wrote Schaefer, now 29, in a Huffington Post column. “While the United Methodist Church was preaching hateful messages that were harming me, it was my family and their deep love for me that kept me from suicide. Their love and affirmation gave me the reason to live.”
Neither Schaefer could be reached for an interview because their lawyers instructed them to stay silent until the jury handed down a verdict–a practice in line with United Methodist Church trials, which have existed largely in the shadows. Only four secular journalists, and four other members of the United Methodist-related media were allowed to attend Monday’s trial. Filming or sound recording was prohibited, as was posting to social media accounts.









