Obergefell v. Hodges, the case legalizing same-sex marriage throughout the country, lays bare a bitter split. That disagreement is not only about the rights of gays and lesbians to marry, but about men and women’s roles and what it means to make a family.
You could call the majority’s view “Free to Be… You and Me.” Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who joined Justice Anthony Kennedy’s majority opinion, frequently cites the 1972 Marlo Thomas album and book, which later became a TV special.
“No one should be held back, boy or girl – because of gender, artificial gender barriers. That everyone should be – in the words of a wonderful song that Ms. magazine popularized, everyone should be free to be you and me,” Ginsburg explained in a msnbc interview this February. Although Marlo Thomas and Friends didn’t quite get there, the “Free to Be” view includes gays and lesbians having the freedom to marry and to have that marriage equally recognized by the state.
You could call the dissenters’ view the “gender-differentiated” one, which is how Justice Anthony Kennedy charitably referred to it in the majority opinion. You could also call it patriarchy.
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In the 1970s, Ginsburg made her name in a series of cases challenging how the law stereotyped men and women. (Many of the plaintiffs she brought to the Supreme Court were widowers, like Jim Obergefell, the named plaintiff in the same sex marriage case, or like the widowed Edie Windsor whose case brought down the Defense of Marriage Act in 2013.) The upshot of Ginsburg’s sex discrimination cases was the government generally can’t put men and women into separate boxes, even when the justification is that the sexes have complementary and different roles. Or, as Kennedy writes in today’s opinion, “These classifications denied the equal dignity of men and women.”
Kennedy adds that history is no excuse for denying equality. Society can become more enlightened, an argument Ginsburg made before the court to justify throwing out gendered classifications, and the law needs to catch up to that.
“The Court has recognized that new insights and societal understandings can reveal unjustified inequality within our most fundamental institutions that once passed unnoticed and unchallenged,” Kennedy writes. One of those institutions, as Ginsburg pointed out at oral argument in the Obergefell case, is marriage. Separate is not equal.
Same-sex marriage opponents, limited in how much they could argue that men and women are fundamentally different and one can only be married to another, were left with the claim gay people had to be shut out of marriage because marriage is about having babies. Kennedy and the four liberal justices soundly rejected that argument.
“That is not to say the right to marry is less meaningful for those who do not or cannot have children,” Kennedy wrote. “An ability, desire, or promise to procreate is not and has not been a prerequisite for a valid marriage in any State.” That is consistent with the fact that infertile people are allowed to marry, but the assertion also makes a deeper point about what constitutes a family. Is it biology, or is it willful commitment? In a country where women’s reproductive functions are still treated differently under many state laws – particularly in regulations around abortion and contraception – and where many people choose to have children without marrying, Kennedy is implicitly making a crucial statement that treats men and women as autonomous individuals, not baby-making units. No wonder he kept citing the cases, including 1965’s Griswold v. Connecticut, that struck down contraception bans.








