WINSTON-SALEM, North Carolina — Jill Abramson’s distinguished skills as a newswoman and editor were on full display during her Wake Forest University commencement address on Monday.
The university’s official graduation program listed Abramson’s address as “The Importance of a Truly Free Press.” The remnants of that initial speech were apparent in the few words she delivered about a recent trip to Beijing and her reflections on colleagues who “risk their lives frequently to bring you the best news reporting in the world.”
But Abramson was fully aware that the stage on Wake Forest’s picturesque Hearn quad was a platform to have her say about last week’s abrupt termination from The New York Times. Although her comments were necessarily somewhat oblique, she chose not to deliver a treatise on the theoretical press, and to instead directly confront the reality that she is the news.
Abramson delivered a funny, gracious and breathtakingly vulnerable reflection on her ouster and the meanings young graduates could glean from it. She earned a spontaneous and genuine standing ovation from the crowd and more than subtly undermined the ubiquitous recent characterizations of her as pushy, harsh, and difficult.
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She didn’t take a parting shot at her erstwhile employer. Indeed, Abramson assured graduates she’d never remove the Times “T” tattoo from her back and somewhat wistfully asserted “it was the honor of my life to lead the newsroom.” Sitting among so many young people excited to begin authoring their adult lives, it was uncomfortable to listen to the rawness of Abramson’s disappointment.
After all, just a week ago, Abramson’s career was the kind of thing commencement speeches are made of. She read the Times as a kid, worked her way relentlessly through the ranks of American journalism, and ascended to her dream job by shattering the glass ceiling. Surely, when Wake Forest first secured her as a speaker last spring, they must have expected she would inspire their students as a living symbol of what is possible if you dream big and work hard.
Then, she was fired. Publicly. And it hurt. Bad. It was, she implied, “a soul-scorching loss.” Abramson’s tone was less that of a disgruntled former employee, and more that of the spurned lover who discovers her adoration unrequited.
“I’m talking to anyone who’s been dumped, not gotten the job you really wanted, or received those horrible rejection letters from grad school,” she said. “You know the sting of losing. Or not getting something you badly want. When that happens, show what you are made of.”
I was surprised that Abramson would display her recent wound so openly. Big girls are told not to cry and dragon ladies are supposedly unable to do so. To speak of her firing as similar to “getting dumped” is to invite troubling gendered analysis, like my sentence above about her unrequited love affair with the Grey Lady. Abramson knows this. She has consciously chosen to level specific claims about sexist practices leading to her firing.
On Monday she chose to discuss the split in what sounds distinctly like the “different voice” theorized more than 30 years ago. In 1982, psychologist Carol Gilligan’s “In a Different Voice” proposed that women employ distinct moral reasoning and unique terms of leadership. Girls and women, Gilligan argued, resolve dilemmas with particular attention to maintaining and deepening human relationships.
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Gilligan’s work is not unproblematic. It can veer into essentialist gender arguments that don’t pass empirical tests of women’s leadership in the real world. But Gilligan’s work endures in part, because of moments like Abramson’s commencement address. It is hard to imagine a man speaking with such respect, compassion, and broad view about an organization that had unceremoniously fired him only days earlier.
We have evidence that Abramson’s leadership may have had a structurally different voice. She is regarded as a woman interested in other women’s success. She regularly acknowledges her indebtedness to pioneering women who came before her, as she did in her Wake Forest speech. And she was specifically interested in helping other women traverse the path she cleared.









